Pro Wrestler Comes Out As Bisexual After Video With Boyfriend Hits The Web

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I am health professionals wrestler. My wardrobe is basically a pair of creatively designed underwear that hugs my muscular frame and leaves little to the imagination.

My job description is to entertain devotees through body language, story lines featuring over-the-top characters and, well, coping other boys garmented in a similar way.

Understandably, being openly bisexual could be perceived as a number of problems. Its what retained me closeted to all but a few from the time I started wrestling as a pro five years ago. It took a Youtube video to construct me see that came to see you was not going to be their own problems I thought it would be.

It was this past fall and I was three months into a relationship with my boyfriend, Michael Pavano. Mike and I had uploaded a video to YouTube on his channel called The Laughing Challenge, where he described me as his boyfriend.

The video was a blast to do, but I worried that someone from the wrestling world would stumble across it and read my secret. I decided to let it be posted anyway.

Weeks afterward, I received a text that stimulated my stomach drop.

It was from my best friend in the wrestling business, and someone I specifically stimulated sure to keep my secret from. The text read: Bro, why didnt you tell me? I knew what they are signify but I played dumb. What do you entail? I responded. He answer was that he saw the video.

Much to my great succor, he told me he didnt care and that I was one of his best friends in the business.

He also said that some of the other wrestlers had watched it too and tip-off him off about it. I was relieved that he was cool with everything but a bit nervous because other wrestlers knew. It was after this that I came to the conclusion that I had a decision to make.

When I was a kid, I always said that when I grew up I wanted to make a difference in someones life. If you were to tell me that years later Id be doing so performing in front of thousands of people each month in the world of professional wrestling, I would have called you a liar.

I first entered the pro wrestling world when I was 21 and a year later entered the modeling/ acting business, signing a contract with BMG Models in New York City. I was living my daydream and I should have been the happiest person in “the worlds”. The true is, I wasnt. Externally I was, but deep down I was fighting on the inside with my sexuality. I was afraid to tell the world that I was bisexual.

Ever since high school I knew that was something different about me. I started to notice that Id consider a couple walk down the street and think how attractive both the guy and the girl were. It would become more prevalent as college rolled around and I received myself with a shitty love life.

Long before the hours each day pumping iron at the gym or body-slamming 230 -pound human being for a living, I was a skinny, shy and lovable kid that everyone enjoyed to be around. Basically, I was friend-zoned a majority of the time. Without much of a love life, I experimented on the other side of the barrier and was very comfortable with it.

I was comfortable with the thought of being bisexual but not the thought of other people knowing. At the time, I was playing baseball at Seton Hall University, where the whole squad would shower together. I definitely couldnt have them know my secret, because in my brain I thought they would get a awful impression. They were my brothers and my dreads were irrational, but its hard not to think they wouldnt seem a certain way.

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This remained the same when I entered and journeyed through the wrestling world times late. Ive adoration pro wrestling ever since I was 5 years old and I didnt want my experience ruined because of other wrestlers supposing I got into it for the wrong( sex) reasons. Those thinks have never traversed my intellect. The resound is my sanctuary, where nothing else matters. I couldnt bear expressed the belief that if I came out, Id spend most of my period worrying if the person or persons I was wrestling was uncomfortable and didnt want to work with me.

It became worse because in my short time Ive garnered a decent quantity of success in wrestling. Over the past four years Ive traveled and wrestled up and down the East Coast, internationally touring Canada and England, and appeared in multiple commercials for World Wrestling Entertainment as well as performing on their Tv proves Raw, Smackdown and NXT.

Ive even been invited to two exclusive WWE tryouts, which meant that I was on their radar, so the thought of them knowing about my sexuality frightened the crap out of me. The only people who did know were my closest friends and my parents, all of whom were supportive.

Meeting Mike was a turning point in me being comfortable with myself in all settings. We met on May 27, 2016, the nighttime before his birthday. We had a few conversations before via Instagram but never had hung out. I was on my phone and learnt his epithet on my contacts list when I decided to reach out to see if he was around.

I met him and his friends at a saloon celebrating his birthday and we instantaneously clicked. By the conclusion of its nighttime I knew he was someone I wanted to be around more often. Over the ensuing weeks, we learnt one another quite often and after about 2 months we decided to make everything official. It was my first relationship and it was with a guy.

I told Mike coming into the relationship that I was very much on the DL because of my career, so I couldnt do in public some of the things normal pairs do. It was totally unfair to him, but he liked me enough to threw that to the side. I did make a promise that it wouldnt be forever. That period went when my wrestling chum learnt the YouTube video.

With my closest pal in my profession being cool with my orientation and having the continued enjoy and subsistence from by parents and best friend, I ultimately seemed comfortable letting “the worlds” know. On Jan. 8 this year, I sent a message on Facebook 😛 TAGEND

Im not going to make this a long winded post but I think its period. Just wanted to let everyone know im Bisexual. I look forward to changing perceptions and transgressing stereotypes as I continue on my jaunt. I have zero patience for negativity so if this bothers you please delete me. Thanks !

After making send, I immediately turned off my phone. I didnt want to think about what people would write. After about 30 minutes I told Mike to check his telephone. I hadnt told him I was planning on came to see you, so I wanted it to be a surprise.

He had the biggest smile on his face, our friends in the room applauded, and I made the decision to turn on my phone. The answer was overwhelming positive 986 likes and more than 200 commentaries, all positive; only a very few people unfriended me. I couldnt assist but cry as I let loose all of the years of stress, nervousnes and fear of judgements. It was the best decision I had ever made.

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I had three reasons for coming out 😛 TAGEND

First, I felt it was finally the right time for me. Second, I asked Mike to be in my life and the fact that I asked him to censor a part of their own lives because of me concealing was nonsense. He put up with that for five months and that sacrifice meant the world to me. I truly can be argued I enjoy him.

The final reason goes back to behavior I started this article. I wanted to make a difference in folks lives. I recognise I have a unique platform to spread awareness about ongoing issues in “the worlds”, to break stereotypes and prove everyone that they can be themselves and do what ever they threw their intellects to no matter what their sexuality is.

I cant even begin to tell you how many people Ive spoken to over the years who are concealing and suppressing themselves out of dread of being judged. If I can help inspire at the least one person to fight past their struggles through my jaunt or inspire at the least one person to live their daydreams, its all worth it for me. The jaunt and the fight is just beginning!

Anthony Bowens, 26, is a professional wrestler, fitness model, and performer signed with BMG Models in New York. He played baseball at Seton Hall University and is a 2013 alumnu of Montclair State University with a degree in broadcasting. He can be reached via Twitter and Instagram at @Bowens_Official or by e-mail: AnthonyMBowens @gmail. com .

Story editor: Jim Buzinski

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