There is some breakup advice out there that I like.
For example: In order to get over someone old, you have to get under someone new. Anything that promotes hooking up with someone in order to get over an ex is pretty fun to me.
But theres also some dating advice that is cornyas inferno. Its the stuff that your friends told me to you when youve finished your fifth pint of Ben and Jerrys, havent left the house in two weeks, and they have absolutely no notion what to say to you to get you out of your funk.
Im sorry, but an inspirational quote that a fitness blogger posted on her Instagram page and a lot of parts of advice that have been passed down through the ages are just going to got to get through your breakup.
Here are some cheesy parts of advice about breakups that is really just bullsh* t.
Time heals.
Time doesnt heal. Operating on yourself will heals.
Doing the introspection and inner work to figure out why your relationship failed, or why you keep attracting and picking the incorrect boys over and over and over, is what is going to finally get you over your relationship and bring better, healthier ones into your life.
A calendar or a clock isnt going to bring Mr. Right to you, and its not going to delete the remembrances of your ex. That would be nice, though.
When one door closes, another opens.
Actually, when one door closes, a few more might open and then slam right back in your face.
A new relationship isnt inevitably headed your way because you crave one. Actually, you might be alone for a while.
And when the door closes on your relationship, the othersthat open might not be ones you expect. It could be day with friends, an opportunity to date yourself, or free time to reconnect with your family.
Or better yet, dont wait for any doors to open; bust through the glass ceiling and focus on your career.
If you truly love someone, let them go.
If you genuinely enjoy someone, lock them in your apartment and never let them leave, like, ever, ever, ever! Thats how adoration works, right?
Its true-life; sometimes, love isnt enough. But relationships also require hard work, so unless there are unsolvable problems with your spouse, if you truly enjoy someone, perhaps let them go?
If its meant to be, it will be.
No, it wont.
Great relationships dont merely fall into our hands. Love takes mettle, vulnerability, and two people putting in the effort to make a relationship successful.
If its meant to be, it wont merely be. Thats passive, and adoration is an act. But if you put in the run, it can definitely happen.
So if you break up and want to get back along with your partner, then move buy some buds or get a boombox and stand outside their mansion, detonation your special song.
Romance isnt dead. But if you dont take a chance, your relationship will be.
It is what it is.
I had an ex-boyfriend say this to me, and usually, it was when he didnt wishes to take accountability for his actions.
Saying it is what it is releases all responsibility from the situation and doesnt allow for any introspection. is it what it is? How did you get here? How will you learn from the situation? What misstep wont you make again?
It is what it is allows us to stay in the problem. Action and introspection after a breakup help us move towardthe answer and actually heal and get over our ex.
Acceptance is important, but so is accountability.
What is the worst breakup advice youve ever received? Whats your favorite breakup advice? Sound off in the comments.
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